Marriage

Thumbs Up to Bribery… In Moderation

Let’s call it what it is. Bribery. Euphemistically, we’re talking about the carrot over the stick. It’s positive reinforcement over negative reinforcement… on smile-inducing steroids. Come on. We know we use it on our kids, we use it on our colleagues, we sugar coat it and then dole it out […]

Will Parents Pardon the Bad Boyfriend?

Haven’t we all had a boyfriend or girlfriend we brought home to mom or dad, only to sense the chilly response – or overly effusive welcome? Some of us may be relieved when our parents like the person we’re falling for. We see them smile, and we know all is […]

Why Kids Are Hard on Marriage

Let’s just say it. Kids are hard on marriage. When I make that statement, are you foaming at the mouth or fidgeting a little? Is it something you know but wouldn’t so much as whisper? Why are we so unwilling to acknowledge what most of us have experienced? To say […]

Friends and Lovers

“Before we were married, we were the best of friends,” he says. I’m watching an indie film, only paying partial attention, and the scene is a husband and wife at the end of their divorce. He wanted out, had an affair to seal the deal, she’s devastated and eventually has […]

I Love You, But I Don’t Want to Marry You

The words repeat in my head: I love him, but I don’t want to marry him; I love him, but I don’t want to marry him yet; I love him, but I don’t know if I can give him what he wants – if what he wants is the traditional […]